By Ellen M. Graham | Guest Commentary, Rocky Mountain Voice
Why do other women keep telling me they’ve been unfriended for voting for Trump? Why is this a thing?
Having been through it myself, my pulse quickens and suddenly I’m in junior high and there they are. The mean girls. Today they are white, liberal, women, living in self-reflecting vacuums and their entitlement runs deep. They are virtuous and experts on everything. Ruthless, alone, predatory in groups, these mean girls stalk the hallways of their modern neighborhoods, children’s schools and Whole Foods looking for those who aren’t worthy.
In the world of mean girls, wearing T-shirts that say BE KIND, your kindess will be taken as a weakness. Weakness like the maturity of being a friend who loves and accepts other women for who they are? Weakness like I don’t need group think? Weakness like understanding that there is far more to a person than her political views?
This new strain of mean girls do not have the maturity to understand that we are all formed by our experiences and that influences our views. Mean girls see you for how you reflect them back and they don’t like it. Strong girls can say, I don’t see it that way but I do see and value you. Mean girls, resort to name-calling, gossip, ostracization and bullying.
In 2019, I said something to the effect on The Steffan Tubbs show, that we were in a psychological civil war because when I came out as conservative to my open-minded, liberal, inclusive friends, I was stunned to find that for many of them, that open-mindedness didn’t include my views. While they spent their days out-virtue signaling each other in their overpriced yoga pants, they had no place in their hearts for anyone who might want to make our country safer, stronger and more prosperous.
They called us racists, homophobes, transphobes, xenophobes, and my favorite recently is that we just want cheap eggs.
When did this become ok?
It didn’t.
Just like it wasn’t ok in junior high to be bullied, ostracized, made fun of and left out, it isn’t now.
It’s time we call out the Mean Girls. As usual, their airs of sophistication and pretention loaded with oodles of ridiculous virtue-signaling, are just a lot of phony baloney. The swath of white liberal women who voted for airhead Harris and dimwit Walz, in their minds establishing themselves as virtuous and better than everyone; are a segment of America more out of touch than I imagine the people in the woods of Maine or fishing villages of Alaska. This self-designated “intellectual” class is in fact wildly stupid about how the economy, foreign diplomacy and even abortion law works. Lamenting their loss of rights for the last 3 weeks, not one of them can name a right lost. Because there isn’t one.
What they did lose is their grip on public influence and opinion in this landslide election. And they should lose that same grip on you.
Encourage them to try shaving their heads and move on.
To you, beautiful, strong, smart women who want to Make America Great Again, you are so much better than phony friendships based on conditional love. You were never going to be good enough for them because in the end, they aren’t good enough for this country and that’s why they lost. Their barbs of racism, clinging, internalized misogyny, are a projection of the darkness of their own souls. They never really were anything without group think to bolster their egos. Without your tacit endorsement, they wither and will forever be looking to blame others for the stored crap in their souls.
But seriously, as a woman who has moved on, I understand it’s easier said than done. There are Facebook memories, photos from weddings, college parties, baby showers with people we don’t call friend anymore. But remember, they are the ones with their poisonous ideology who fractured this country, not you. And also remember, this country is healing and it needs you. This is a time to create new bonds and weave new threads through our communities, critical to making them stronger.
Your true friends are out there and they can’t wait to meet you. This time, they will love you for who you are, not for a flawed perception they want reflected back to them.
Since 2019, I have made incredible friends with other conservative women. I’ve also been very blessed by friendships with liberal women who don’t need me to think like them and vice versa. Like Thomas Jefferson and John Adams disagreed on so many things, they agreed on America and we should too. The mean girls are going to be left behind. We are moving on and they aren’t going with us, and that’s a good thing. It might be a self-fulfilling prophecy of their white privilege too. LOL.
Ellen M. Graham is a working mom of teenage sons who travels as often as she can with her conservative love that is the best thing that’s happened to her since Trump.
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